Learning To Calm Your Thoughts And Find Real Rest

Do you believe you get enough rest each night?

Or are you like so many of us who are kept up by racing thoughts?

There’s that saying, “no rest for the weary.”

As I’m quickly approaching my 70th birthday, boy do I understand that more than ever!

Building WakeUp Health has been all about waking people up to their healing opportunities. Let me tell you something, even though all of my thoughts are usually encompassing wellness and healing – sometimes, even that needs a rest.

The reason being is that I often find myself up half the night. I’ll be thinking about the content I’m writing next, the latest tech challenge I’ve found myself battling, or just everyday life.

Don’t get me wrong, I have found the silver lining in lockdown due to the pandemic. Every day, I am grateful to have the opportunity to focus on my online business. As I’m meeting so many of you, I am more committed than ever because YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Does this sound familiar to you?

Is there a passion project that you love?

But it’s keeping you up at night?

Then when you wake up you feel tired and lacking the energy to accomplish your goals?

I’ve got good news! You are not alone, and I can help! Together, we can get you on the path to learning to calm your thoughts and find rest for the weary.

Learning To Calm Your Thoughts And Find Real Rest

What’s keeping you up at night?

Maybe a project? Or your kids’ homework?

Or maybe at your recent doctor’s appointment, you learned that at the young age of 40 you have borderline osteoporosis?

Being kept up by an unfortunate bone diagnosis is something that I 100% relate to. I was once in your shoes when I was diagnosed with Osteopenia at 50. The rabbit hole I leaped into definitely kept me up at night.

From anger at the doctors for not testing me sooner… Or all of my habits that weren’t helping matters… I often found myself lying in bed hoping to wake up from dreaming about breaking bones.

Here’s the thing… It wasn’t a dream, and I still haven’t figured out how to time travel to make different decisions in my past. But I did learn to move onward and upward.

And YOU get to benefit from my sleepless nights because I’ve already done the research, the trial and error, and the homework!

Because of this, you can avoid the vicious cycle of staying up late with anxiety turning into guilt for the long tiring day ahead.

Find Rest For The Weary

It didn’t come easy, but with practice, I’ve been able to be better about shutting off the internal noise. Finding rest for the weary takes work sometimes! But I’m here to break it down for you.

Focus On The Chemistry Not The Circumstances

Pounding heart, rushing adrenaline, and the whirlpool of words in my head sometimes feels like the bane of my existence.

But these symptoms describe a need to change my state of mind and shift my chemistry.

Are you thinking, “Huh?” You’re not alone and I understand!

Living inside out, we are constantly chemically responding to our thoughts in our heads and the world around us. Focusing on the changing chemistry within us, rather than the circumstances is empowering.

You can’t control other people, nor should you try. Everyone is their own person on their own journey. At the end of the day, even what someone thinks of you is really none of your business. So rather than focusing on the people and circumstances surrounding you, I want you to WakeUp to what you CAN control.

Identify Sensations Keeping You Awake

Finding yourself caught up in a whirlpool of thoughts and emotions is more common than you might realize. It would be more surprising to find someone who can’t relate to that feeling of overwhelming dread that you just want to shut off.

So the next time you feel the anxiety creeping over you, focus on identifying the sensations in your body.

What are you most aware of?

Is it the adrenaline rush that would serve you better during waking hours?

Or heart-pounding throbs feeling like they might explode from your chest, your ears, or even your toes?

Does all this make your head hurt? In addition to another sleepless night, now you’ve added a headache to boot.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

All those words are running through your mind. Are they connected to certain emotions?

Is it anger, frustration, fear, and anxiety?

Consider what these words are telling you. At this moment, what are you believing about yourself?

And then stop. Ask yourself, “How do I feel?”

This exercise, after all, is about YOU. We often feel selfish for thinking about ourselves when there are people relying on us. But alas, you cannot pour from an empty well.

Calm Yourself With Breathing

After you have spent a few moments identifying sensations and acknowledging feelings, it’s time to stop and focus.

Did you know that you can calm yourself and stop the negative thoughts by breathing?

Slow your breathing to intentional deep breaths and begin counting…

Inhale for four counts… one… two… three… four…

Hold for four counts… one… two… three… four…

Exhale for eight counts… one… two… three… four… five… six… seven… eight…

Hold for four counts… one… two… three… four…

Then repeat.

Repeat as many times as you need until you feel yourself calming.

Practicing this breathing technique is a wonderful way to calm yourself for sleep. But you can also use this during the day! Feeling anxious at work? Involved in a fender bender? Is your child driving you mad? You can practice this box breathing as inconspicously as you like. No one will be the wiser.

Affirm Your Self Love

Once you feel yourself becoming calmer, place your right hand over your heart. Then practice affirming yourself with loving words.

“I am here with you.”

“You will figure this out.”

“I know you are scared.”

“You are important to me.”

“I love you.”

It may sound silly at first but speak to yourself as a loving parent speaks to their child. After all, everyone’s inner child needs some love.

Say whatever words help you calm down. Say them on repeat as long as you need to begin to feel your chemistry shift.

Hopefully, you can quickly and peacefully drift off to sleep.

Your Mood Does Affect Your Bones

Are you reading this wondering, “What in the world does this have to do with bones?”

Naturally when we think of the risk factors for poor bone health, we immediately think of aging and diet.

Choices and habits that begin as teenagers, like poor sleep and eating habits, can be hard to break. Understanding that low bone density can also be a result of a chaotic lifestyle is eye-opening. Because now we are able to approach bone health as a preventable disease.

WakeUp To Restful Wellness

As a preventable disease, there are many factors within our control that we can act on to help keep our bones stronger for longer.

Learning how to change your state of mind is something you can start to work on today!

Together, we can accomplish goals to help you WakeUp to wholeness, wellness, and a good night’s sleep! Contact WakeUp Health and get started today!


Ciely Ti Gray